Through this journey I have found that one of the most important things I need to do is to love myself. I wear a ring that says "Nothing is Impossible" to remind myself that above all else I must love myself and by doing so the world is mine... I wear it on my wedding ring finger as a reminder that I must truly love me before anyone else will.
A while back during a very tough time in my life a friend recommended a book called "The Four Agreements". At first it seemed a little out there, but the concepts and ideas rang so true. It helped me realize that the words and actions of others have absolutely nothing to do with me. It helped me through a heart-breaking split with a good friend. I keep a copy of the book around at all times. I have given at least a half dozen copies away to friends and loved ones... and even one time a perfect stranger who happened to cross your path. The author also writes a book on love called "The Mastery of Love". I was pouring over it today. Soaking in the truth of what is most important... Self-Love. At the very end there is a prayer for self-love. It helps me to read it any time I start to doubt myself or start to take things too personally.
A PRAYER FOR SELF LOVE
Today, Creator of the Universe, we ask that you help us to accept ourselves just the way we are, without judgment. Help us to accept our mind the way it is, with all our emotions, our hopes and dreams, our personality, our unique way of being. Help us to accept our body just the way it is, with all its beauty and perfection. Let the love we have for ourselves be so strong that we never again reject ourselves or sabotage our happiness freedom and love.
From now on, let every action, every reaction, every thought, every emotion, be based on love. Help us, Creator, to increase our self-love until the entire dream of our life is transformed, from fear and drama to love and joy. Let the power of our self-love be strong enough to break all the lies we were programmed to believe -- all the lies that tell us we are not good enough, that we cannot make it. Let the power of our self-love be so strong that we no longer need to live our life according to other people's opinions. Let us trust ourselves completely to make the choices we must make. With our self-love, we are no longer afraid to face any responsibility in our life or face any problems and resolve them as they arise. Whatever we want to accomplish, let it be done with the power of our self-love.
Starting today, help us to love ourselves so much that we never set up any circumstances that go against us. We can live our life being ourselves and not pretending to be someone else just to be accepted by other people. We no longer need other people to accept us or tell us how good we are because we know what we are. With the power of our self-love let us enjoy what we see every time we look in the mirror. Let there be a big smile on our face that enhances our inner and outer beauty. Help us to feel such intense self-love that we always enjoy our own presence.
Let us love ourselves without judgment, because when we judge, we carry blame and guilt, we have the need for punishment, and we lose the perspective of our love. Strengthen our will to forgive ourselves in this moment. Clean our minds of emotional poison and self-judgments so we can live in complete peace and love.
Let our self-love be the power that changes our life. With this new power in our hears, the power of self-love, let us transform every relationship we have beginning with the relationship with ourselves. Help us to be free of any conflict with others. Let us be happy to share our time with our loved ones and to forgive them for any injustice we feel in our mind. Help us to love ourselves so much that we forgive anyone who has ever hurt us in our life.
Give us the courage to love our family and friends unconditionally, and to change our relationships in the most positive and loving way. Help us to create new channels of communication in our relationships so there is no war of control, there is no winner or loser. Together let us work as a team for love, for joy, for harmony.
Let our relationships with our family and friends be based on respect and joy so that we no longer have the need to tell them how to think or how to be. Help us to accept others just the way they are, without judgment, because when we reject them, we reject ourselves. When we reject ourselves, we reject you.
Today is a new beginning. Help us to start our life over beginning today with the power of self-love. Help us to enjoy our life, to enjoy our relationships, to explore life, to take risks, to be alive and to no longer live in fear of love. Let us open our heart to the love that is our birthright. Help us to become Masters of Gratitude, Generosity, and Love so that we can enjoy all of your creations forever and ever, Amen.
Pretty awesome stuff.
The New You